“No, I’m Not Auditioning for Your Love Life” (Just My Career, Thanks.)

 Hello? Is anyone out there?

Cool. Because I have a bone to pick with the entire universe of dudes who think that because I post my headshots online or share a reel, I must also be thirsting for a date with someone named Brad, Chad, or “aspiring director” Kyle.

Let me say this loud enough for the back row and the dude who slid into my DMs while I was mid-costume change:

Just because I put myself out there to showcase my talent DOES NOT mean I’m casting for a boyfriend, situationship, or your unsolicited man-opinions about “lighting and angles.”

I post a monologue → you clap, or don’t.
I post a scene → you say “great work,” or scroll.
What I don’t need is:
“Hey, you were really convincing as that grieving widow. Wanna grab coffee and trauma bond?”

Um. No.

Actors are already emotionally raw on purpose. It’s literally the gig. I don’t need extra unsolicited feelings from a dude who thinks “Meisner” is a brand of protein powder.

Let’s talk about networking, because for some people (hi, creepy Steve), it seems they skipped straight to “net-weing.”
Pro tip: just because we’re both in the industry doesn’t mean I’m interested in discussing your screenplay titled Hot Girl at the Bus Stop 2: She’s Still Hot, Now With Trauma.

And while we’re at it, I didn’t ask for dating advice either.
I’m out here trying to book roles, not consult with the local Fantasy Boyfriend Bureau on whether I “smile enough to land a leading man.”

If I wanted pickup lines, I’d be in a rom-com—not a casting call for Woman Who Can Cry on Cue and Dodge Emotional Vampires Simultaneously.

Actors are taught to be vulnerable, expressive, open. But none of that means we’re open for business in the romantic sense just because we posted a self-tape.

So, fellow creatives:
Share your work. Post your weird voiceovers. Cry on TikTok. Be your full dramatic self.
And if someone tries to turn your career into a dating app? Politely remind them:

“I’m not auditioning for your love life—I’m busy being a star.”

🎬 Roll credits. Mic drop. Exit stage left.

Now It's Your Turn, Drama Queens (and Kings):
Ever had someone mistake your reel for a dating profile? Got a cringe “networking” story that still haunts your inbox? Drop it in the comments—I live for the awkward, the absurd, and the aggressively unsolicited.

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Because around here, we fake it til’ we book it—but we never settle for “hey beautiful, you got representation?”

See you in the spotlight (not in the DMs).

This Week’s Amazon Rec:

The Third Door: The Mindset of Success

This one’s for those of us who want to build real connections, not awkward vibes and passive-aggressive follow-up texts. Alex basically sneaks his way into some of the biggest rooms in the world—not with pickup lines, but with persistence, charm, and zero creep factor. Inspiring and useful, whether you're trying to land a role, pitch a project, or just survive a mixer without punching someone.
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